Advice dating man children
Let me tell you, I quickly learned that the single dads were, in general, the best guys I met. Parents are super protective of their kids (think about your mom and dad).They were kind, patient, considerate, and frankly, not self-centered jerks. Introducing a new person to a child’s life is a serious thing.It takes a large amount of selflessness, patience and understanding for such a relationship to work. Find out everything you can about him as early as possible.For instance, you should know how often he has his children, the type of relationship he has with his ex-wife if he's divorced, what his responsibilities are toward her and whether he wants to remarry eventually.
When I finally decided that I was ready to date again, I had this expectation that dating in your 30s was going to be just like dating in your 20s.Just as you needed time to adjust and learn new things about him, allow your child the opportunity to form their own relationship with him too. When you’ve decided it’s time, start with a no-pressure meeting.Maybe have him meet you at the park bench while the kids are playing.Don’t stunt his growth with being over controlling.
Yes, they are your kids and he’s new to the family, but he needs to learn to find his place as a potential step-dad as well.
Among other things, find out whether you are comfortable sharing your man’s time with his children, having his ex-wife in a future life with him and whether you are comfortable with the state of the relationship now. Don’t see him too often, meet his children too soon, get intimate right away or move in together.